To the boy who lands up dating my older sister:
I know I’m not the one to be giving you such a talk; I’m too young to be a threat-giver. But my sister is far too nice a person to ever threaten someone this way so I’ve taken the onus upon myself to make sure you know what you have, and the consequences of hurting the girl I cherish the most.
I have watched her grow, stumble, fall. And then pick herself right back up and be on her way again. She is capable of being her own guiding light, she doesn’t need anyone to hold her hand while she’s taking over the world. Because she’s brilliant. But what she requires is someone to watch her be her awesome self and shower her with praises for every little victory. Because her eyes are so fixed on her goals, she doesn’t realise how many challenges she has already overcome. And on some days, it feels like she hasn’t done enough. Be the guy who tells her how awesome she really is.
Remind her that she is brilliant. Laud her for every little win. And be loudly proud of the wonders she does.
She says she isn’t very affectionate, but that’s a lie. Her heart is filled with love to give out every single day. You will feel her love, and you will grow because of it. But don’t forget to reciprocate that at every step of the way. She secretly loves all the love she receives. I know for a fact that it makes her heart swell!
Her enthusiasm for life and adventure is contagious. Her determination to cross things off her to-do/to-visit list is rigid. You need to be by her side while she’s getting all of this done. Don’t get me wrong, she will do all of it without you, but the joy is in seeing her spirit when she’s at her highest inspiration peak. Even if it means waking up at 5a.m to see Penguins in a zoo. Do it. Seeing that wide-eyed face drooling over nature is worth every second of lost sleep.
She’s social. She loves meeting new people and is quite good at it. Don’t change that about her. It’s very rare to see someone who actually likes people. Let her party, let her come home late. Give her the space she needs to unwind. Let her be the reason why you want to enjoy every minute of life.. because she’s such a wonderful example of it.
Last, but probably the most important, she’s a boss babe. She’s probably a hundred times more hard working, more dedicated and more talented than you’ll ever be. Don’t ever let her feel anything less. Don’t ever feel like you’re never enough for her. Because all she really cares about is you being a wonderful companion. And believe me, she probably adores you more than you even realize!!
So that’s that.
Be there for my sister
Be her rock. And her weakness.
Be the reason she tells her clients that she won’t work post 7!
And always be the reason she fell for you in the first place.
Be all of the above, and I will always stand by your love.
Now, and forever,
Your to-be sister-in-law.
P.S.: My screening standards are very high. I doubt you stand a chance to even make the cut.